In a world where ambition is praised and success is idolized, it’s easy to be swept away by the charm of a man with a strong vision — a man who talks about dreams, future goals, businesses, buildings, and achievements. And yes, it’s a beautiful thing to marry a man with direction, drive, and purpose.
But ladies, let this be clear: never marry a man whose vision is more important than you.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with dating or supporting a man who is chasing his dream. That’s noble. It shows that he has purpose and is actively pursuing something meaningful. However, the line must be drawn when his dream becomes his master, and you, his partner, become nothing more than an accessory in his journey.
More Than a Role Player
Marriage is more than two people living under one roof — it’s a deep emotional, spiritual, and personal commitment. It’s not about a man finding someone to cook, clean, and bear his children. It’s about finding a life partner, a confidant, a helper, and a companion who is loved, honored, and cherished.
If a man is willing to leave his parents, siblings, and friends to be with you, but still treats his vision as more important than you, then what has he really done? He hasn’t chosen you — he’s chosen someone to play a role. And when roles change or performance fails, people who think like this easily replace or discard their partners.
You deserve better.
A Matter of Priorities
Marriage is a priority — not a convenience or a checkbox. Apart from his decision to follow God, marriage should be the second most important decision in a man’s life. That decision should not be taken lightly or ranked below material accomplishments.
Buying a first car, building a first house, making a first million — those are good goals. But marriage? Marriage determines the peace of a man’s heart and home. A man who doesn’t prioritize marriage will always misplace value — and you will always feel it.
Too many men have:
The finest cars, but never enjoy rides with their wives.
The biggest houses, but walk in silence with broken hearts.
Lavish spending habits, yet neglect their wives’ emotional and physical needs.
A mechanic on speed dial for a car issue, but no urgency when their wife falls ill.
This is not how it should be.
Wisdom From Scripture
Ecclesiastes 5:10 says it plainly:
> “He who loves money shall never have enough. The foolishness of thinking that wealth brings happiness!”
And that’s the sad truth. Many are chasing wealth, success, and public image, but their private lives are empty, broken, and full of regret. Marriage is meant to add warmth, companionship, strength, and legacy — not to be a forgotten priority beneath buildings and business plans.
Final Thoughts: Choose Value Over Vision
So, dear woman: marry a man who has vision, yes — but only if he sees you as his greatest treasure. A man who knows that his dreams are important, but you are more important. A man who understands that houses can be rebuilt, cars can be replaced, but a good marriage is rare and worth protecting.
Don’t fall for grand speeches. Watch how he treats you. Look at how he makes decisions. Ask yourself: “If everything else was taken from him, would I still feel like his priority?”
Because when a man truly loves, values, and honors you — everything else falls into place.
To your continuous growth, peace, and wellness.
